Ignore
Agree but then don’t do what they asked for 6 months.
My knee jerk reaction is I wouldn’t respond.
Depends on how close we were and the reason and surcumstances for that long break.
I have lots of contacts and friends that i really just forget to message every now and then because both of us are buisy
Ask what the favour is?
Depends on the person, on the favor etc.
Is this somebody whos a good friend and we just fell out of contact? As long as the favor isnt too bad, id probably do it.
Is this somebody I met at a bar, texted once and never heard from again? id not respond.
Wait six months and ask them for a bigger favor.
Depends on the favor and if you want to do it of course. I’d say be better than them and respond, don’t bring up the last time, and if you don’t want to just kindly say that you don’t want to or can’t.
Since I don’t know details, I assume it’s someone you haven’t talked to in 6 months and they want help moving or something, I’d say “Hey good to hear from you! Unfortunately I can’t, sorry, but let me know if you want to meet up for a beer or something”
keep it simple and vague. You don’t need to give them a reason or an excuse, just simply can’t.
I find that treating shitty people kindly just lets them know they can continue being shitty and people will still be nice to them. Accidents happen and people deserve some leeway but if someone is known for being shitty I think it’s better to give them the same energy they put out.
If you punish an adult (within social norms) you mostly get negative results. If you give them grace you might not get it in return but you also are less likely to suffer.
Game theory says otherwise
Could you elaborate? I’m no expert, but what the previous poster says sounds like tit-for-tat to me, which is a good strategy.
Depends who it is. For the guy i consider a brother from another mother, I’d probably help. 35 years of friendship will do that.
It is possible that they responded but it was never received.
or they never got it in the first place. verizon loves to munch on sms here on the work phone.
I wouldn’t
In six months respond and say “sure what do you need?”
If they reply, wait another six months before saying “sorry I can’t help you with that anymore.”
new phone, who dis
It sounds like you already know your answer, OP
This is not a hypothetical, I have a friend who does this habitually. If it’s a one time thing and not their normal behavior, just let it go!
I use signal, I write a response like nothing has happened. I make sure to quote their message in my response. I use the timed message feature of signal and I send the response in 6 months.
