When you punch a wall, you may not be intending for a whole to form, but you still have to pay to fix it. When you have sex, you may not be intending to have a child, but you still have the responsibility to care for it. Because nobody else made the kid, you did. Reality is not victim blaming.
I don’t think this site is for everyone. You need your own internal reason to use this site (anti-enshittification, banned from other places, or whatever). On a regular social media site, you log in, and you immediately are shown a feed of fun and interesting content. Unless you’re like really into programming, Lemmy doesn’t have fun and interesting content. Of the content that is here, people don’t engage with it much, and it’s poorly moderated (actual calls for death and abuse, weird sexual anime stuff, etc). Lemmy is also not easy to use or understand. Most people don’t understand what an instance is, and why do I need to read paragraphs on federation just to use the site? The only way this place could compete with polished, plug-and-play social media is if the US continues getting so authoritarian that regular social sites become exorbitantly censored to a regular person’s perspective.
That’s literally reality. The baby is the result of a man and a woman having sex, not just the woman. The baby is both parents’ child, not just one’s parent. There isn’t a “solution”, because that’s not a problem. It WOULD be a problem if one could abandon their child with no consequences, which is why they can’t.
Genuinely curious, how is it not equal that when abortion is available, the male has no way of saying “I don’t want a child”
Because in that case, only one parent can abandon the child. That’s not equal. It’s saying men have no real responsibility for their children, only women do.
The entire reason we want abortions to be legal is for the edge cases exactly like this
No, the reason we have abortions is that pregnancy is harmful for women. It cripples you for weeks. It makes you unable to work for months. Women die every year from pregnancy complications. Abortion is about the woman’s right to healthcare, not the insentient clump of cells. Parental rights are about the live baby.
In the US, in some states, even if you try to simply run away the gal is forced to put down any name as the father, and he will be held accountable for the child whether he agreed or not.
Which he should be, because it’s his baby. He made it just as much as the woman did. The man’s time to opt out is different from the woman’s because of biology, but he still had the opportunity to opt out.
Yeah, doesn’t make a difference.
That doesn’t change anything. If the child is born, it’s yours, and you can’t abandon it. The child has a right to a parent, and you are the parent.
The White Lotus. Great vacation show. Short, funny, watched it on vacation, helped the vibe was a good time.
That’s not equal. Women can’t abandon the baby after it’s born either. It takes two to make a baby. Men have the final say over their own bodies just as women do.
Medjool date and a coffee. Perfect dessert.
What a nightmare.
There isn’t a “science”. There are a ton of individual projects. Some of them are good investments and some of them are bad investments. Ultimately it’s not our money to decide how it’s spent, and if we want something that isn’t currently being studied to be studied, we have to add it on. Really, considering how little % of the economy we need to spend on acquiring what we need to survive, it makes sense to invest our economy into intellectual pursuits.
and only conservatives are surprised.
To an extent my brain already does that. The most I’ve done is join a protest that marches a few streets and back. Like, I’m not picking up my life and dedicating to helping those people. I’m just mildly upset and concerned while still trying to accumulate wealth and skills to improve my employment.
That is a good youth unemployment rate.
usually if I left keys/phone/wallet in my pants pocket on the floor, that’ll work.
but most of the time, it’s somewhere random that I would never think of.
I am low contact, but she is way too mentally ill to have positive relationships with people. I sympathize that she can’t control it, but it’s kind of like asking me to put my hand on a stove to please someone else. I truly gain nothing but unpleasant feelings from being around her. I feel nothing but aversion to the thought of being around her. Even as a child I avoided her.
almost never.
It just doesn’t bug me to eat the same thing all week, and I’d certainly rather cook less than more. Salads and sandwiches might be good for you, because you can change the fillings.
That’s the point. Negligent actions often aren’t intentional. You can be negligent and not intend to harm someone. Not knowing things you should have known is hurtful.
There’s a reason that the answer to any problem is never “Go on facebook more”. I don’t think there’s a controversy at all. Some people can manage a healthy balance and some people can’t.