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Cake day: August 2nd, 2023

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  • Love does not require vulnerability in any shared sense. It can absolutely exist without it. I would argue that a relationship isn’t very healthy without some concept of shared vulnerability but love isn’t a relationship and a relationship isn’t love.

    Many relationships are purely based on a concept of “I know what my partner is thinking/feeling” when nothing is shared. There are many connections that just work, for various reasons.

    I’m nearing 50 and didn’t even know what vulnerability actually was (I had a concept but not an experience. I didn’t know what I didn’t know) until my early 40’s. And I’m still shit at vulnerability and have roughly as much experience with using a Bat’leth in combat as I do being vulnerable. But believe me, I’ve been in love many times.