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  • Waldelfe@feddit.orgtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world*Permanently Deleted*
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    7 days ago

    I’m a woman and I’ve been going to the sauna since I was pretty young. So I had my fair share of encounters with creepy old dudes commmenting on my body. Never and I mean NEVER have I experienced it that a comment on my body, any comment, and if it’s just about my hair, did not end with a hand on some private part of my body. I get a comment on my body, 100% of the time it’s a sleezy older guy trying to fuck.

    Someone saying “you are beautiful especially naked” would 100% translate to me as “I’ve been ogling you for some time and probably jerked off to you and want to fuck you.” If you found her tattoos cool, you could say “cool tattoos”. But you told her just hooow much you LOVE looking at her naked body and there’s no way that isn’t sexual. From the way you describe her in your text here I also don’t believe you that you didn’t have other intentions.

    Several people even told you it was inappropriate. There was also no need whatsoever to start a discussion with Y. It was his sauna and obviously he wanted X to enjoy it without being oggled by you.

    None of this would have been even half as much of a problem if you could just a) not comment on other people’s naked bodies and b) just accept that you made someone uncomfortable and not approach them again. If it’s a stranger you aren’t going to see again there’s just no reason to talk to them again.




  • A mummie movie from the perspective of the mummy, who is a highly educated scholar. The archelogists and military chase him and think he’s a monster, while he has to figure out how the modern age works and why he was resurrected. Also he has severe PTSD and flashbacks from being killed in an intrigue at the Pharao’s palace.

    Edit: So I’ve been thinking about it and I think he should eventually figure out that the people who killed him wanted to test the ressurection spell and if it worked, thought they could make an invincible mummie army and control all of ancient egypt. They thought the ressurection would be instantaneous after being mummified, not ~4000 years later.







  • That reminds me of a former job I had. I had a male coworker who refused to make coffee. It was a small company with only 10 employees and we had this really cheap machine where you just put coffee in the upper part and then let the water run through. Don’t know what it’s called. Anyway, that coffee machine had ONE (1!) button: on/off. He’d always try to make me or the only other woman in the office make the coffee because “You women know better how to do those things. I never make coffee”. The best part: he was one of the engineers in charge of repairing the power tools that the company sells!

    So, what happened if we refused or weren’t there? There just wasn’t any coffee! Those guys would rather not have their coffee than make it themselves!





  • I feel you. I worked in logistics in an office position for a long time. I’m very organized, so I liked it and was good at it. But wages have always been low and with the current cost of living you can hardly make ends meet with those logistics job. Managed to switch to IT, mostly project management, and thought I finally found something that I’m good at and that’s promising a decent wage. My contract for the last project is about to expire and jobs in IT are few and hard to get.

    It’s really disheartening, you think you do everything right and fight your way into an in-demand field just to have the rug pulled from under you.


  • My husband and I went to Noord Holland in the Netherlands last year. We had a room in a private house. The owner was this nice old couple. They helped us rent bikes at a local bike shop and we just went everywhere on bike. Every day an hour or two just following the coastline, nothing but the sea, the shore and the sails of the boats in the distance.

    We also went to a hat museum. It was a private museum - basically an old woman who’se been collecting and making hats her entire life. A whole room full of hats from all over the world and she could tell you all about them, how they are made, the cultural signifance etc. Her husband made us tea while we sat there and listened.