Reminder: 80% of jobs never reach job boards. Most businesses hire people via their social networks.

If a government agency cant find them, they will be very difficult for average users to find as well

People like this should have to pay the legal fees of the defendants.

iirc, in the US at least, you can sue the people suing you to recomp lawyer fees.

A totally understandable take. On the other hand, I personally find them quite useful, and don’t think they should be dismissed out of hand. And I think that if someone wants advice on using them effectively (going back to my original post in this thread), that they should be given advice on using them effectively - not platitudes.

Have you experienced this yourself? Because I have not experienced this.

I mean, they were never, like, a fun way to meet a partner. But they certainly are a way.

Yep, there’s a cheat code.

1. Be attractive.
2. Pay them.

For “be attractive” a lot of people think the requisite level of attractiveness is unattainable for them. Its not. Be decently in shape, groom yourself, have some style in the way you dress. The other half is taking good photos. Take photos that look good, that you look good in, and which create a vision for what the best version of your life looks like.

And then pay them. Tinder, bumble, and hinge basically have a monopoly on the market. Its pay to play. You can get matches without paying, but it is a lot fewer and a lot less.

This is not useful advice for dating apps.

Honestly atp of life, making friends seems hard and sadly I’m not that young.

There is nothing about any particular stage in life that makes it hard to make friends. Some things, like school, can make it easier. But how hard it is to make friends largely depends on you, and how you interact with the world. It depends on your skills and your habits that lead to friend-making.

It sounds like you dont have those skills and habits, and that will make making friends hard. GOOD. Because you know what helps you mature? Doing hard things. Trying things you aren’t sure will work. Being scared and uncomfortable. Getting rejected.

Go out and make friends, and have a hard time making friends, because the difficulty of making friends will help you become more ready for a relationship

Oh noes! They’re talking about s-e-x? Gross! We’re not supposed to talk about that! That’s naughty - we should be reading our bibles instead!

Also yes.

As a man, I’d be all about this

Yeah. Good luck finding a woman that is proud of you

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Yeah. I mean, I get it. The concept of the app makes sense. And I would be that, on average, it is/would be used for good.

On the other hand, as a guy, the idea that people are out there sharing reviews of me as a person on the open internet, and I have no way of knowing this, is deeply unsettling. Like, I haven’t done anything wrong - just the whole concept feels very gross.

I mean, this is literally the basis of the trolley problem, and the divergence of several major schools of moral thought.

Morally better? I mean, I think so - wanting to stay out of a conflict, to me, seems more morally defensible than actively supporting the bad side. It isn’t the perfect moral position, but I think it is better.

More likely on a factual basis? Yes. Absolutely.

Correct

I mean, its possible you’re correct. But my point is that, no, Grindr is probably not, like, run by the zionists. It’s just trying to stick to a good policy for anyone to stick to - don’t get involved in a conflict in the middle east.

You guys are all conspiracy theorists.

What actually happened: someone who knew someone at Grindr said “man, anti-zionism is really gaining ground on Grindr, huh?” The Grindr employee said “Huh?” “Oh yeah, its like on every other profile.” “Huh…”

Then a few employees chat about it, until someone mentions it to their ad exec, who says “HWAT???” The ad exec knows that the Israeli government is committing war crimes - but they also know that as soon as the right wing media picks up on this, Grindr will become the “the secret deviant app for jew-hating gay nazis”, and they DO NOT want to spend their weekend handling that shit storm.

Hence the rule.

You can still say “Pro Palestine” in your bio.