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  • That’s a very revealing view you have about BDSM. No, you don’t need to like it or it doesn’t need to be your thing, still I want to clean up a huge misconception:

    Healthy BDSM is all about consent. It’s the central part of it.

    “Domination” is kind of a game, and you need a lot of trust to be able to play this. This trust is being established on a foundation of talking things through before on a level where I’ve rarely seen consent applied before.

    This is something to take away, so while the domination and submission thing might totally not be your thing - and that’s fine! - relying on explicit consent is something many vanilla people would benefit from.

    Do you want this / I would like that / That’s fine with me / Sorry, no that’s not for me. And even on a “no” response thinking “thank you for telling me, now I know more about you”. That’s the base where to base eye to eye level relationships on. It requires a bit of courage and we’re not used to it.

    I do think you feel exactly this, things are about consent. And upbringing / media has shed a weird take on BDSM.

    *= Btw BDSM in media has absolutely nothing to do with the real thing, as they just skip the part where people just talk for a long time.







  • When my son turned 16 and my daughter was 18 I had that discussion with them, as I’m a supporter of being allowed to vote with 16.

    My 16y old son was against it “Look at all my friends, they don’t inform themselves and everyone would been voting for some shit party that promises something”

    My answer to that is, most people do. “Being qualified” is not a condition for being able to vote. Yes, there’s a line you cross when you grow up, a toddler obviously can’t vote yet, an adult can.

    But in the end it’s arbitrary where you put that line and by moving it down to 16 you can “a bit” influence the relative large weight of older generations in elections.

    When I vote, I’ll have to live with the consequences for 30y in the best case before I’m worm food. For my kids the number is over 60y.

    So regardless of “how qualified to vote” you are, moving down the election age changes the decision making to be of longer term and less of short term.





  • I’m living in a 15 floor apartment building with a single stairwell. (Germany, the building is from 2015)

    There’s two elevators, one of them is equipped for firefighters (manual control possible after inserting the firefighters’ key, windows)

    The single escape stairwell is isolated from the rest of the house by double doors (kind of an airlock against smoke). The escape stairwell is isolated against smoke and fire.

    Also on every floor there’s a kind of glass cage in front of the elevators with a normally open door, in case of fire this will isolate the elevators against smoke.

    In case of a fire alarm all the doors will automatically close (you can still open them. manually), additionally huge fans will be pulling clean air through the stairwell and the elevators.

    We have individual fire alarms in every room - and a common system, connected to the fire department, in the shared areas.

    So it’s a “put all of your eggs into one basket, but have a damn good basket” concept.

    Btw, I’m on 8th floor, so too high to jump and probably already out of reach of the FD’s “extensible ladder” car.



  • I recently visited a friend and noticed her laptop was turning into a spicy pillow. I opened it up, showed her which replacement battery to order and call me when it’s here to install it.

    Next week she called me, she had successfully installed the replacement battery herself. “Ah I saw where it went, I just tried”

    Typically it’s not hard, you just need to know where to look and not be afraid “ooh it’s tech”.



  • https://youtu.be/yx5xhlwUxxA

    There were A LOT of songs about nuclear war in 80s music. German youth in the 80s was very aware that in nuclear war Germany (being a huge part of the east west border) would just be ground zero to be vaporized in WW3.

    Thinking about Germany people associate the Autobahn, what some don’t know - there were pre-built detonation chambers so key sections and bridges could be mined with atomic demolition munitions in order to stop the east bloc tank armies from advancing.

    ChatGpt translation of the song lyrics:

    When in the Canale Grande submarines drop anchor
    And on St. Peter’s Square in Rome missile launch pads stand
    When a carpet of bombs floats over the bazaar of Ankara
    And from the hills of Olympus a Pershing II rises

    Then everything is long too late
    Then, when nothing works anymore
    Visit Europe
    As long as it still stands

    In front of the old Cologne Cathedral a mushroom cloud rises into the air
    And the sky is filled with the scent of neutron waffles
    When in Paris the Eiffel Tower bows westward in a final salute
    And near Big Ben a gentle Alpine glow appears

    Then everything is long too late
    Then, when nothing works anymore
    Visit Europe
    As long as it still stands

    When haute cuisine turns into a witch’s cauldron
    Where the cook from overseas flambés his old world
    There’s laughter and applause, even the waiter gets a kick
    What’s left to us but culture — we wish you bon appétit

    Then everything is long too late
    Then, when nothing works anymore
    Visit Europe
    As long as it still stands
    Yes, then everything is long too late
    Then, when nothing works anymore
    Visit Europe
    As long as it still stands
    As long as it still stands, as long as it still stands
    As long as it still stands, as long as it still stands





  • froh42@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldHighway to hell!
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    Right, they are “end of speed limit”. So, if there’s speed limit signs you’ll find another speed limit or this “end of limits” sign afterwards. This doesn’t mean “go qs fast as you want”, it just means there’s no additional limit on top of what the road type says.

    So if it’s a road where ongoing and incoming traffic is just divided by road markings, the limit is 100 (or below if there are speed limit signs), if the road has two halves with some barrier in the middle (“baulich getrennte Fahrbahnen”) and at least two lanes per direction the recommended speed is 130 with no hard limits. (But the insurance might get back to you if you were driving tooo fast)

    Btw interestingly while we may drive really fast we have a law against racing your car (including racing to the next stop light), if you do that you might lose your driving license and not get it back for a looong time. (And that’s really expensive)

    Last, if you do traffic violations which are more than a misdemeanor (for example tailgating) and they catch you, your license will be suspended for at least a month, but typically more.

    Interestingly minor violations like being up to 20kph too fast outside of city limits is. among the cheapest all over Europe. But do something bad and you’ll ride a bike for a few months.

    Edit: thank you autocorrect for correcting so if to son of… now everyone knows what a filthy mouth I am.


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    Signs are quite visible. Around here (Munich) most of the Autobahn speed limits are electronic signs anyways, which can be turned off or on set to a limit between 60 and 120 due to traffic or weather conditions. *

    “Normal” speed limits signs are being repeated every 30 seconds or so, google. maps also shows the limit while navigating and a lot of newer cars detect the signs as well and show the current limit on the speedometer.

    Current cars must play a warning sound (by law) each time you exceed the limit. (You may turn the warning off for the current trip)

    • btw there’s one electronic sign per lane on a “bridge - like” construction and here in Bavaria they include mounting points for speed trap cameras.