

I did start learning a bit of Russian once as I was dreaming of riding the Transsiberian Railway once in my life. Russian is quite different from what I speak (German, English). I just wanted to be able to read signs and say things on a "I thirsty where bar? Beer! " level.
Btw. regarding that dream - I gave it up forever. I’ll probably go for a summer beach party, when crimea is Ukrainian again. Even if they have to roll me along the beach in a wheelchair when I’m really old.
That’s a very revealing view you have about BDSM. No, you don’t need to like it or it doesn’t need to be your thing, still I want to clean up a huge misconception:
Healthy BDSM is all about consent. It’s the central part of it.
“Domination” is kind of a game, and you need a lot of trust to be able to play this. This trust is being established on a foundation of talking things through before on a level where I’ve rarely seen consent applied before.
This is something to take away, so while the domination and submission thing might totally not be your thing - and that’s fine! - relying on explicit consent is something many vanilla people would benefit from.
Do you want this / I would like that / That’s fine with me / Sorry, no that’s not for me. And even on a “no” response thinking “thank you for telling me, now I know more about you”. That’s the base where to base eye to eye level relationships on. It requires a bit of courage and we’re not used to it.
I do think you feel exactly this, things are about consent. And upbringing / media has shed a weird take on BDSM.
*= Btw BDSM in media has absolutely nothing to do with the real thing, as they just skip the part where people just talk for a long time.