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I agree that what she does is manipulative and condescending even with the best intentions (paving the road to hell and all that), but I have issues with the use of “emotional intelligence” here.
An emotional intelligent person does NOT do this kind of shit on purpose.
They meet the other person where they’re at and on the same level, they communicate honestly, they don’t presume to educate or manage them.I’d say she comes off more as emotionally stunted, she has no idea know how to relate with her partner as an equal.
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
News@lemmy.world•‘No tip for illegal’: Server left with racist note at LAX Planet HollywoodEnglish
7·7 months agoI grew up in a fairly conservative household. I used to read the rags my parents considered newspapers, people in my social circles and schools were mostly middle to upper class, and I idolized my father.
It took me a long while to realize I was seeing through distorted glasses, even after I started mingling with different viewpoints.
There always was a gut feeling that something didn’t add up, cognitive dissonance maybe.I sometimes wonder what kind of person I’d be had I not been high on the neurodivergent spectrum and pushed on the outside.
Privilege and social echo chambers make for pretty efficient blindfolds.
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
politics @lemmy.world•Trump wants green card applicants legally in US to hand over social media profilesEnglish
1·7 months agoYou’re hopeless and after this I’m done arguing with a wall.
You go learn science.
Being vaccinated doesn’t make you 100% safe, that’s a fact. Even if it did, when shit is left free to roam in a herd of unvaxed morons it can mutate.
Beside all that, I’m not hiding or running, I’m staying in my country or going places with mostly reasonable people roaming about.
It’s really truly that fucking simple.
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
politics @lemmy.world•Trump wants green card applicants legally in US to hand over social media profilesEnglish
1·7 months agoYou’ve already been answered plenty and I don’t think you’ve been listening anyway, but for what is worth I wasn’t advocating against vaccines, I’m on top of mine (covid included) and I’m always very vocally in favour.
I still avoid putting myself in the way of contagion when I can, and right now that includes staying out of the USA or any country that puts antivaxers in places of authority.
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
politics @lemmy.world•Trump wants green card applicants legally in US to hand over social media profilesEnglish
61·7 months agoVaccines usually aren’t a 100% shield. If enough people around you are unvaccinated, you may be at risk too.
Immunity comes in numbers.That without counting potential mutations in such a favourable environment.
I’d stay out of the US for the foreseeable future.
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
Technology@lemmy.world•Zen browser had a backdoor enabled by defaultEnglish
2·7 months agoJesus. I didn’t downvote you, and I was referring to people not wanting the engine, Chrome and Chromium.
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
Technology@lemmy.world•Zen browser had a backdoor enabled by defaultEnglish
153·8 months agoVivaldi is Chrome based
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
Technology@lemmy.world•Itch.io games site taken downEnglish
10·11 months agoI think they are referring to this.
As in, it’s not that they want, they might have to.
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
politics @lemmy.world•Young women are more liberal than they’ve been in decades, a Gallup analysis findsEnglish
131·1 year agoI’m sorry, is that a brain fart or did you actually mean to say leftists oppose abortion?
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
News@lemmy.world•Young girls are using anti-aging products they see on social media. The harm is more than skin deepEnglish
3·1 year agoHard agree there
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
News@lemmy.world•Young girls are using anti-aging products they see on social media. The harm is more than skin deepEnglish
26·1 year agoI’m fine with getting wrinkles and I still keep my skincare going. When I don’t, my skin gets very dry and fills with pimples.
There’s a middle ground here.
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
Technology@lemmy.world•The Elon / Trump interview on X started with an immediate tech disasterEnglish
2·1 year agoI seem to remember a similar blunder as well, maybe it was DeSantis?
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
politics @lemmy.world•'Trump is a coward' now trending on ex-president's own social media networkEnglish
26·1 year agoIt’s a Monty Phyton one
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
World News@lemmy.world•Russia has forked Wikipedia, featuring "better truths"English
3·2 years agoThey seem to have banned it
If you like arch based, may I suggest you try Garuda?
It’s a gaming distro, which I don’t know if you care about, but it’s very stable, should work with NVidia and has many quality of life features.
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
News@lemmy.world•Anti-trans Missouri A.G. can now access trans people’s medical recordsEnglish
0·2 years agoI’m sorry I didn’t notice it wasn’t you, I must have been tired. Glad you got I wasn’t trying to judge, I’m neurodivergent and sometimes my communication is a bit off.
Since you’re aware of it and actually try not to let it sway you towards hate, I suppose it’s not that big of a deal, though I’m not trans so I could easily miss something here. I’m sorry about the dislikes too, though I understand why people have no patience in this regard, it gets tiresome to always fight and having to justify existing. Most possibly stopped reading at repulsed.
I would be majorly annoyed in your place, which is part of the reason I asked, but I’m quite obsessive in figuring out my internal working.
Mind if I ask some more? I’m also obsessed with understanding how people in general work, but I don’t mean to bother and I apologize if this comes off as pushy.
If I understand correctly, you feel it unnatural as a concept. Have you ever actually met trans people? Often you can’t even tell, but I suppose I sort of understand it can be confusing when you can. I would like to understand how it gets from confusing to repulsive though. Maybe something about the general climate more than your specific environment? It got quite violent recently, maybe you’re sensitive to it? I get you don’t know yourself, and again if this bothers you I apologize and I’ll stop.
mzesumzira@leminal.spaceto
News@lemmy.world•Anti-trans Missouri A.G. can now access trans people’s medical recordsEnglish
0·2 years agoI kind of appreciate the “I don’t need to understand or like you to support” attitude, but repulsion is a strong reaction.
Have you ever reflected upon the why?
Especially if you don’t like that reaction in yourself in the first place, as you say, maybe it would be worth working on it?

You could try moving to Tidal or Qobuz, they treat their artists better and there are tools to transfer playlists