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    6 months ago

    I agree that what she does is manipulative and condescending even with the best intentions (paving the road to hell and all that), but I have issues with the use of “emotional intelligence” here.

    An emotional intelligent person does NOT do this kind of shit on purpose.
    They meet the other person where they’re at and on the same level, they communicate honestly, they don’t presume to educate or manage them.

    I’d say she comes off more as emotionally stunted, she has no idea know how to relate with her partner as an equal.


  • I grew up in a fairly conservative household. I used to read the rags my parents considered newspapers, people in my social circles and schools were mostly middle to upper class, and I idolized my father.

    It took me a long while to realize I was seeing through distorted glasses, even after I started mingling with different viewpoints.
    There always was a gut feeling that something didn’t add up, cognitive dissonance maybe.

    I sometimes wonder what kind of person I’d be had I not been high on the neurodivergent spectrum and pushed on the outside.

    Privilege and social echo chambers make for pretty efficient blindfolds.















  • I’m sorry I didn’t notice it wasn’t you, I must have been tired. Glad you got I wasn’t trying to judge, I’m neurodivergent and sometimes my communication is a bit off.

    Since you’re aware of it and actually try not to let it sway you towards hate, I suppose it’s not that big of a deal, though I’m not trans so I could easily miss something here. I’m sorry about the dislikes too, though I understand why people have no patience in this regard, it gets tiresome to always fight and having to justify existing. Most possibly stopped reading at repulsed.

    I would be majorly annoyed in your place, which is part of the reason I asked, but I’m quite obsessive in figuring out my internal working.

    Mind if I ask some more? I’m also obsessed with understanding how people in general work, but I don’t mean to bother and I apologize if this comes off as pushy.

    If I understand correctly, you feel it unnatural as a concept. Have you ever actually met trans people? Often you can’t even tell, but I suppose I sort of understand it can be confusing when you can. I would like to understand how it gets from confusing to repulsive though. Maybe something about the general climate more than your specific environment? It got quite violent recently, maybe you’re sensitive to it? I get you don’t know yourself, and again if this bothers you I apologize and I’ll stop.