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Cake day: August 1st, 2025

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  • I think there are a couple of things to pick apart here. First off, the main question:

    Would you equate it to a person ignoring you irl or is ignoring a text different?

    Yes, I would equate it to that. But as ignoring someone in real life, context matters.

    For this post let’s assume the people involved are or were in the past friends

    Are or were? Because that’s a very important distinction. Because if you are friends, that’s a pretty nasty thing to do. If you’re friends, you’re most likely important in their life. Ghosting can be especially hurtful in that kind of situation, because they trusted and maybe even relied on you to a certain extent.

    If you were friends, why are you not friends anymore? Did you just drift apart? Than it’s not great to ghost them. Them texting you can mean that you’re still important to them and that they would like to actively work on mending your friendship. If you don’t want the friendship anymore, say it. And if they don’t accept it, then you can ghost them. Did you cut off the friendship because they were abusive? Are they bombarding you with messages or trying to compel you to do something? Then go right ahead and ghost them.

    Do you consider ghosting people a reasonable way to deal with today’s overwhelming and constant information and notification overload?

    If a friend or a former friend messaging you (normally, I’m not talking about bombarding you with messages here) is a part of your constant information and notification overload, that’s a problem in and of itself. Take a look at what is part of that notification and information overload. What is important for you and what can you do without? I would think, for instance, that messages from friends are more important than notifications from social media (including the notification you may have gotten from this reply). Take some time to filter that out. And if you really have too many notifications from friends and feel the need to cut down on the number of friends, first off consider if it’s really the case and you’re not running the danger of isolating yourself (take a good look at this, it is way too easy to ignore or not notice but can have serious consequences), and then talk with the affected friend directly and explain your situation. At least then they know what’s going on and you were fair to them.












  • I’m a somewhat feminine man myself, and man I hear where you’re coming from. And truth be told, you’ve managed to accept yourself the way you are earlier than I did. It took me a while to accept myself.

    I also get the impression, though, that you have a traumatic response to the whole situation due to your upbringing. And it seems to me that that is something that you’ve accepted on the surface, but deep down, you’re still fighting with it. Which, by the way, is OK and normal. This shit takes time and work. If you have access in any way to mental healthcare, use it. You need to work through what you’ve experienced and learn how to deal with it better.

    And I’m not sure I quite understood the situation completely - but if you’re still living with your parents, pull out all the stops to move out. As soon as possible. Otherwise, it will only keep dragging you down. As you’ve alluded to, despite all the shit happening today, there’s still a brighter world out there than what you’re experiencing with your family. It will be worth it, I promise.






  • “All opinions other than mine are only supported by dopamine highs” - wow, what a great new way of being condescendingly dismissive!

    OP actually left the consequences of climate change open. No, it probably won’t be a Mad Max inferno. Probably not. But we also don’t know where the tipping point of the oceans is, because they are storing a shit ton of carbon. Hit that tipping point, and that carbon may well suddenly be released into the air, and then the shit hits the fan.

    But even if that scenario doesn’t happen, and the world is still theoretically perfectly livable, you mentioned one of the main problems: mass migration. We already see what that’s doing today. We’re not far away from World War 3 anymore. So yes, the question is perfectly legitimate.

    (And before anyone thinks it: I’m not blaming the migrants, of course they’re not at fault, they have every right to look for a better life. The people at fault are entirely different, but it doesn’t change the fact there is a causational relationship)