I always wanted to try “Not being poor” but the entry cost and starting equipment are way out of my budget.
Have you tried to be born in to a rich family? I have understood its the bare minimum to get started. Atleast everybody who is serious about the hobby does that.
I realized the mistake I made so I keep trying to find a rich family that will help me start over, but so far haven’t had a lot of success.
I’m single and childless, so I’ve been fortunate to do everything I’ve ever wanted to do.
The one thing that comes to mind is meditation. I can’t really get my thoughts or brain to shut off.
The one thing that comes to mind is meditation. I can’t really get my thoughts or brain to shut off.
I seriously don’t understand how people can do that
Don’t try. Start by sitting still for 5 minutes. Then try more minutes next time. It makes you want sex, so be warned.
But I already want sex
Cooking, in a serious way. I started waiting tables, then salad/prep and mid house, but I never went any further. I was a professional musician about 40 years and full time sysadmin for 21 years, but cooking was a missed opportunity I didn’t take. I was just thinking about this yesterday.
An actual regret. I would never have had enough hours leftover for the dedication required.
It’s never too late to get into cooking! No need to become the world’s best chef, it’s one of the most joyful things to do!
Well, you have a pretty regularly scheduled incentive to learn.
The trick I’m learning is to plan one meal. Any meal. Just pick one coming up, and plan what it will be. Nothing fancy, could be anything, like rice, or scrambled eggs, just plan ahead to add a little something extra. Like, maybe this time you sprinkle some cheese on those scrambled eggs as you cook 'em. Flip the sucker in half, boom, ya gotta an omelate.
Next time, when you feel like it, maybe toss in a few pieces of deli ham, or even better, smash some cherry tomatoes with ya frikin fist and toss those goodies in with the cheese. Maybe you’ll plan that again. But then you notice there are different kinds of cherry tomatoes at the store, so you get a few of each and try them out. Look at that, you’re becoming a chef already. You didn’t need to do anything but make a simple plan for a simple meal and get hungry.
There’s very little in life that feels more rewarding than feeding yourself something you fucking love. Therapy should start with learning the basics, like how to feed yourself (before you try to feed others).
I’m gonna bake a loaf of bread this week because I never have and I saw a stupid easy recipe on YouTube. The only thing I needed to do was remember to grab yeast while at the grocery store. Next loaf, I think I’m gonna try sticking chunks of garlic in it. Treat yourself, feed yourself.
Julia Child didn’t start her cooking career until she was in her 40s, and didn’t start her show until she was in her 50s.
It’s never too late, and even if you can’t do it “seriously” you can do it for fun and learning. I wish I could learn/play bass “seriously” but just do it for fun. Better than nothing. Cook something youre proud of! :)
Skateboarding. I was into punk in middle/high-school, some of my friends were skateboarders, but I never bought a board. I’m pushing 40 now and it’s way too late to start, even as a midlife crisis.
I’m pushing 40 now and it’s way too late to start, even as a midlife crisis.
What? “Pushing 40” is very literally PRIME mid-life crisis timing. Go buy a fuckin’ board, just take it easy on your joints.
Oh, no, I agree that I’m primed for a midlife crisis, but it’s way too late to start skateboarding. I’m in pretty good shape, eat fairly healthy, exercise regularly, etc., but I can’t shake off an a injury like I did in my teens or twenties. I’m not risking permanently messing up my knees learning how to ollie.
That has been one of the most eye opening things for me in my mid forty’s now. Small injuries I used to shake off same day/over night take weeks/months to fully heal up anymore. I’m significantly more careful and purposeful when using ladders or even just regular chores around the house to keep from straining a joint or ligament. I tweaked my MCL stepping on the edge of my stairs wrong shortly after having to use a cane for a couple months due to a hip injury. That was like two months ago and the ligament is mostly feeling fine now and I can do strength exercises with that leg again but holy shit, this whole thing from when I originally overworked/inflamed my hip cutting down/removing a tree would have never even impacted me five+ years ago and it’s like five months to recover. So yeah, I’m more careful and make sure I take breaks now. It’s just not worth it, slow, careful, and purposeful for me going forward.
Oof, that is my nightmare. I’m a runner, and so far I’ve never torn a ligament or anything, but as I get older I get more worried about it. I always stretch before and after each run, but I know any damage I do will take 10 times as long to heal as it did in my 20s, if it even does heal.
My husband used to skateboard 8 hours a day as a kid growing up. When our son started showing interest he got back on it… For one day.
His ankles and knees are a bit fucked from all those years boarding, and he won’t get back on it out of these same fears. There are other sports probably just as fun lol
And your husband knows what he’s doing on a skateboard. Learning at my age will destroy my knees and make me look like an idiot. Part of me will always want to know the thrill of zooming down a half-pipe, but it’s just not worth it. Someone suggested longboarding, that might be fun, or maybe surfing.
LONGBOARDING MAH DUDE.
Oo yes, this is a good option. You can do tricks on a longboard but that’s not “the point.”
I was an old school skater all through the hey-day of Tony Hawk, and I also fought Muay Thai for decades. By the time I hit thirty, I was like a case study for orthopedic doctors.
I bit the bullet and accepted I’d boarded until the wheels fell off and I couldn’t keep getting hurt. Picked up a longboard and it’s like my #1 hobby now. Just did 25 miles in sub-freezing temperatures right before we got slammed with the blizzard.
So no more half pipes. Just throw on a death metal album and pack a bunc of joints and cruise.
There are things I really wanted to do but couldn’t due to a crippling fear of heights. Rock climbing, parachuting, high diving all look so fun. But I find myself crawling back, shivering in fear, trying my best to control the panic attack.
but couldn’t due to a crippling fear of heights
I grew up with a 50m cliff as a backyard.
Absolutely stunning view, the kind that super-wealthy people pay many tens of millions for these days. My parents picked it up in 1977 for practically a song because nearly all the construction companies came from the prairies and had no clue of how to develop on anything other than a pancake-flat piece of land.
But still. It installed into me a particularly overactive fear of heights. I have trouble getting onto roofs thanks to it. When putting up Christmas lights, my wife needs to hold the ladder, as I am tensed up six ways to Sunday by the time I’m at the top.
Skiing is just as bad. I can take most any slope up to and including a double black diamond. It’s only the triples I cannot handle, because that involves vertical drops.
So I understand that fear. Just not the desire to bodily leap out of a perfectly functional aircraft. That’s nuts.
Dude that’s a good thing. I’m probably going to die from my lack of fear of heights someday. You’re the normal one, not me.
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Reading books. I used to be so into it as a kid, but once I got to my teen years I just couldn’t anymore. Every few years I try again and manage to read a few books, but then just stop and never go back. Just last year I tried again, read 10 books, and then just stopped.
Skiing is still top of my list for this but I know I would be too clumsy to do it at a level I would be happy doing. Plus I really really hate ski lifts and cable cars, they scare me to the point I will just avoid anywhere that relies on them to get about.
Diving is something I want to do, but not yet made the time or money available to learn, I know I will at some point.
when i was a little girl, i wanted to be a fashion designer and make up because i was just a girl. i wanted to be like rarity lol
I wanted to be a comic book artist. I can draw, I don’t do it as often as I should, and I’m not bad at it. I wanted to make comic books, get them published at an independent level, and maybe someone would read them. I could just never finish anything I started. I’d have all these great ideas for a story but I would just end up word vomiting them on a page and didn’t know how to expand on it or draw it out. Same thing when I’d try to write a story/novel. How could I create something with several chapters when I just spew everything out within a few pages. So I gave up.
You probably have, but it doesn’t hurt to siggest it, have you tried jotting down your ideas in another format ? On a white board (real/digital) in a mindmap, in separate notes (looking at you obsidian) as sketchy panels etc.
It’s not guaranteed to come out exactly how you expected it to, but it should get you pas that block and give you ideas of how to improve your workflow ;)
I actually haven’t tried that, it’s a great suggestion and I’ll give it a shot!
Pottery! I’d love to have (even just access to) a small studio where I could make things and fire the clay.
Check out Andy Ward’s stuff. If people in precolumbian America could do it, you probably can.
Rollerblades. I’m afraid of speed. Even low speed for people is too high for me. I have no balance too. I can’t ride a bike. But how cool would it be to be able to both move in rollerblades or riding a bike.
I used to rollerblade everywhere as a kid in the 90s. It was awesome.
Hobby? I’m on the wrong coast for it but would love to learn to surf. Pretty sure I don’t have time to get good at it. Music, I’d love to learn to play guitar or even to sing well. Not to perform. To be able to do it.
Lifestyle? Not sure, I think what I would change is stuff I can’t change without money or time I don’t have.
Proper/healthy cooking. Sports.
Go for it, it’s fun, saves money, healthy, and every lad or lady or friend you share a meal with will appreciate it!
Knitting
knitting and crocheting are fucking black magic to me. I hope you decide to pursue it. I think it’s amazing.
I am thinking about starting. Only my adhd thinks of the learning courve and that takes me away from it
I joined a crafts group for crochet. I only crochet for that one hour a week in group. I too have the ADHD, but carving out the hour a week is helping, and I’m making my first scarf! If you can, my group is through therapy, but I know there are others out there too, find you a group!
